So you've had eye contact,what next?🤨
1. Put Your Brain To Work🧠🧠🧠
This is the part where you think up what to do and say when you're in front of her.
Take a moment to quickly come up with conversation starters (in your head),so you don't go there and look like a dork.
Please don't over plan or think of the whole conversation or you'll lose your chance.
Choose the best conversation starters depending on the situation and location.
2. Timing Is Everything🧭
Boys, always remember that there are the worst and best times to approach girls.
Going with the assumption that you are in a mall,please don't approach if she's having a group conversation with other people.
If she's getting a drink, movie tickets,or shopping,you might as well swoop in confidently,(and pay if you wish).
Another time to approach if she's alone or whips out her phone to kill boredom,girls love those kinds of distractions.
3. Cool Confidence😎
When thinking about how to approach a girl, you probably won’t be surprised to find out that the actual approach is pretty important.
Now it's important to pretend not to be nervous (if you are)
And try to understand that there's a very thick line between confidence and cockiness
Now try to build your confidence,she was actually staring at you right,you smiled and she did too,what's the worst she could do?
When you want to speak to a girl, approaching her is the hardest part. The perfect moment never happens, so it’s best to look for signs of the perfect approach
And if you are too nervous to approach her on your own, you can always bring a friend for backup (please make sure it's a real friend). Also, try and be confident (even if it is fake confidence) because once you approach her the rest is easy.
Once you have made that all-important first step, now you need to talk to her.
5. Speak🗣️
Now lots of boys have had problems talking to girls they don't know.
Here are 4 simple steps to talk to her:
a .
Initiation
The first tip is one you’ve already worked out. You have picked out a few conversation starters
These conversation starters should, ideally, cover a few areas so you have multiple chances to engage the girl you’ve approached.
Try something funny and deep, and try something a little on topic for the situation you both find yourself in.
b.
Ask Questions
Although conversations don’t have to be questions, the question aspect does add something to the approach though.
Add to your conversation starters list by adding some questions to ask a girl.
These can be directly added to your conversation starters that let you dig deeper into the topic, or they can be whole new topics to work from.
Ask her about her day, about her recommendations for shops in the mall, or the movie she wants to see.
NOTE:
Girls like attentive guys so asking questions shows you’re interested in what she has to say, so just angle them towards topics she seems interested in, and she’s sure to engage more with your conversation.
c.
Compliments
Questions are a great tool for simplifying how to approach a girl, but they have some limitations. Most importantly, they can be a little ambiguous about your intentions.
If you’re approaching a girl you like, and you want to communicate that clearly, add in some compliments for girls to lay it out there for her.
You can compliment her about anything, although the goal should be for the compliment to be well-received and not too personal this early on.
So, focus on some low-level appearance compliments like how nice her outfit is, or go for a compliment about her tastes after she discusses her favorite shows. You can also compliment her on how interesting she is once you’ve started talking.
d.
Point Out Things Around You
Don’t stress about a few drops in the conversation. Just fill them in with what you’ve already observed about her and the surroundings.
Ask her if she likes the mall are the cinema or what she’s having.
Comment on whatever show is playing in the background, or ask her for anything she knows about the movie she’s got tickets for.
These conversation bumps are natural and keep you talking. If you run out of observations and questions, just throw out a conversation starter you’ve kept in reserve.
e.
The Phone Number
Once you’ve had a decent introductory conversation, you need to decide if you want this relationship to build from there.
If you like her, and she’s been receptive, solidify the option to continue talking by getting her number.
You may worry there’s a lot of steps behind how to get a girl’s number, but it really can be as straightforward as you want it to be.
If you can muster the courage, just ask for her number outright. You can also make a subtle excuse(such as wanting to learn more about her or get some recommendations for TV shows or shopping or movies) if you want to ease the stress of the direct request.
While there are other indirect methods, direct is by far the best way to get a number. It suggests confidence, straightforwardness, and really communicates your interest.
Just pick a moment when it seems like the conversation is nearing a natural end and ask for her number.
f.
When Do I See You Again
When you get her number, don’t just leap for joy and run off.
Like Wale and Pacman😏
That would be a natural enough reaction, with all the relief and pride in your success, but stay where you are for a few more beats before you go celebrate.
Now you have her number, build on that moment by suggesting opportunities to meet up or chat soon.
This can be as simple as telling her you’ll text soon with a link to the movie you discussed. Or, asking her if she’d like to hang out again.
Use topics in the conversation to construct this invitation. You don’t need to get a solid answer here, so don’t press too hard. Just let her know you’ll be using that number soon.
g.
Make a clean getaway
Once you’ve got a number and set up a tentative continuation of your discussion, now is the time to beat it.
Pick a good moment, and a good excuse as you can, to end the conversation at a natural moment. If need be, make up a place to be. The key here is simply to choose the right moment so you avoid awkwardness.
At the next break in the conversation, just tell her you have to go and remind her you’ll text soon. Then, make a swift and confident exit.
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